Thursday, October 6, 2016
Law and Mediation Offices of Kelly Chang now offers online scheduling of consultations. If you prefer to call, you can call 323-393-5669. Thank you! We look forward to meeting you.
Tuesday, February 2, 2016
Divorce is expensive. As the joke states, they're worth it. Sometimes it's "cheaper to keep her".
Around this time of the year (starting the first work day of January) to right after Valentine's Day, most divorce lawyers' phones are ringing off the hook. In fact, I was quoted here, in this article, "Kelly Chang, a Los Angeles-based divorce lawyer said she has seen an increase in divorce filings shortly after Valentine’s Day. This can be attributed to two major groups of people: the ‘Delayed New Year’s Resoluters’ who are merely moving forward on their resolution to be single, just a month late, and the ‘Waiting to Exhalers,’ who, depending on the actions of their spouses on Valentine’s Day, will either reconcile or file for divorce,” she said.
Google "expensive divorces", and you will find a listing of the most expensive divorces in history, including but not limited to: Alec Wildenstein's divorce from Jocelyn Wildenstein; estimated at $3.8 billion; Rupert Murdoch's divorce from Wendi Deng; estimated at $1.8 billion.; Rupert Murdoch's divorce from Anna Murdoch: estimated to be $1.7 billion.
I have been a divorce attorney for over 16 years. Here in Los Angeles, the estimate is that a contested divorce costs approximately $100,000 total in attorneys' fees, and lasts 3-4 years.
Why? Because it's divorce!!! They still want to WIN!!! DESTROY!!! They want that PITBULL! I wish I could share some of the emails I have received from people i have NEVER met, telling me how much they hated their spouses and how much they needed to WIN.
Here are 10 ways to drive up your divorce costs.
1. Refuse to talk to your spouse. Have everything go through the lawyers.
2. Don't teach yourself anything about the divorce process. Just stick your head under the sand and have your lawyer handle it.
3. Email/call your lawyer to tell her everything that happened today between you and your ex.
4. Assume settlement is for "losers", and always try to "win".
5. Insist on being "heard" in court, because your situation is different, and you just KNOW the Judge will always side with you.
6. Even though you have always handled the finances, develop a conspiracy theory that your spouse is hiding assets, and stick to it. Hire private investigators and forensics to back up all your theories.
7. Refuse to read any documents presented by the other side's lawyer, because you don't trust them. At all.
8. Even though your wife hasn't worked in over 12 years because she has been a stay-at-home mom, refuse to pay ANY spousal support and make her undergo a vocational evaluation.
9. Fight for FULL CUSTODY, because you alone KNOW what's in the best interests of your children.
10. Refuse to hear anybody's version of "what's fair", because only you know best, and you will get what you want in Court.
Good luck out there!
Tuesday, January 5, 2016
Your children have come into this world because of the two of you. Perhaps you two made lousy choices as to whom you decided to be the other parent. If so, that is your problem and your fault.
No matter what you think of the other party - or what your family thinks of the other party - these children are one-half of each of you. Remember that, because every time you tell your child what an "idiot" his father is, or what a "fool" his mother is, or how bad the absent parent is, or what terrible things that person has done, you are telling the child half of him is bad.
That is an unforgivable thing to do to a child. That is not love. That is possession. If you do that to your children, you will destroy them as surely as if you had cut them into pieces, because that is what you are doing to their emotions.
I sincerely hope that you do not do that to your children. Think more about your children and less about yourselves, and make yours a selfless kind of love, not foolish or selfish, or your children will suffer.
- Honorable Judge Michael Haas
Mediating Child Support
When couples with children separate, both know that support must be paid. We've heard of "deadbeat" moms and dads, but in reality, in the almost 20 years that I have been a divorce/family lawyer, I have never met a parent who would purposely shirk their financial obligations to their children to spite their wife. (Which makes sense because those who don't want to pay child support will not likely want to pay an attorney either, so our paths don't cross.)
In any case - usually, spats over child support result from fear, yielding the following types of accusations: "He's spending this money on his mistress instead of his children". "She is using it for Botox and alcohol instead of the children". "He really makes 50,000 a month!" "She is a doctor! She chooses not to work to punish me!"
In California, child support is calculated using the formula found in Family Code 4055. Family law practitioners who are not good at algebra, use this God-sent program named Dissomaster (I've heard it called Discomaster many times). You just plug and chug and bam, you get a number for child support!
Simple? Not so much. As with all computer programs, it's GIGO (garbage in, garbage out).
What causes most disputes over child support is when one or both of the parents is self-employed, and there is a dispute over how much money is made, and thus, how MUCH support should be paid.
Or, when one or both of the parents' income fluctuates. (because of seasonal work, or bonuses).
SO....we should go to Court, right? The Court can apply Family Code 4055 and get a number.
Wrong. First, it takes money to go to Court. If you and your ex simply cannot agree on how much money is being made, you will need to hire attorneys (the average family law attorney in Los Angeles charges 200 - 1000/hour; it's more for a Certified Family Law Specialist), who will then file Motions to get into Court to convince the Judge to see it their way.
Secondly, it takes time! If you are a business owner, you will likely have to hire a forensic to prepare a sophisticated Income Available for Support chart, which comes with bells and whistles - at a steep price.
If your ex is not working, but arguably could be working, you may need the services of a vocational evaluator who can assess him/her, and peg him/her with an imputed income that he/she could potentially be earning.
It's a lot of work. And with parties with a lot of anger and no trust, it's easy to see why money (which should be paying child support) go to pay attorneys instead.
Issues regarding child support are appropriate for mediation. Both you and your ex can benefit from discussing your fears which drive you, and talk about the needs of the children in a non-combative format. Mediation is confidential, so there is no risk of something "being used against you in a court of law".
In mediation, you can use the Dissomaster (Discomaster) to arrive at a number; or, you may choose not to use it at all if you are self-employed. Ask any attorney or accountant you know - the "numbers game" can be played forever, with no end.
In mediation, here are some tips:
1. Be real. Create charts of spending. What are the real costs of supporting these children? Do they attend private school? Do they have tutoring, counseling, soccer team dues? What about childcare?
2. Expect costs to increase after a separation. When you are ONE raising a family, it was tough enough. Now, if there is only one breadwinner, that person is now supporting TWO families under TWO separate roofs. Sometimes it's possible to go on living the same way. The majority of the time, there will need to be adjustments.
3. Bonus income? Consider using Ostler-Smith support order. I discuss it in detail in this blog post.
4. Consider paying family support so you can deduct it.
What's important is that the children are protected. After all, would you rather pay for your kids to go to college, or your lawyer's kids?